QOTW: 'A Date' Vs. 'Hanging Out' ... what's the difference?

So have you ever gotten a text or phone call or something along those lines where someone from the opposite sex [or same sex if that's your cup of tea] is like, "Let's hang out this weekend."  or "Do you want to hang out?"  And you find yourself thinking… is this a date? Like a date date… or is this just like hanging out as friends? Do you go crazy or obsess about the situation because you just don't know!! Oh you don't? So it's just me? LIES!! LOL. I know for a fact that I'm not the only one who wonders what’s the difference? Or if there even is a difference. No like seriously. Take a second and think about it… in your opinion are they the same thing? Or is going on a date different from hanging out?

I asked this question to a few people on twitter and message boards as my Question of the Week and the answers definitely varied. Here are some of the answers I received:

• On a date for one both people have some sort of chemistry. You expect flirting and typical date stuff. When you're hanging out your more on a friend base, and more so just getting to know each other.

• Date: Dress nice, go somewhere, spend money if necessary. But you can have a date at home, say one person is cooking dinner for the other maybe. Hanging out: Comfy attire, chill together, watch movies at home, hang out at the park, nothing that would be costly really…

• They are the same to me unless otherwise stated.

• A date is going out somewhere with someone you like or are in a relationship with. Hanging out is going to someone's house or something in that nature and just chillin'.

• A date to me is where you are looking to take the relationship with someone to another level. Like really trying to get to know them to decide if you guys want a relationship together. Dressing nice, trying to impress the other one, nice restaurant, that type of stuff. Hanging out is where you guys are just chilling. Nothing to serious not really looking to pursue an actual relationship, atleast not yet. Just trying to get a feel of each other on a friendship level before anything.

• Well, it's evident that I don't even know. This guy I was "hanging out" with decided to kiss me in his car. "This whole time we've been dating? Oh, okay, that's fine."  [I thought this one was too funny!]

• A Date: Yall are boyfriend and girlfriend, or might as well be and that day or night is just about you two and your relationship. Hanging Out: You like each other and you're hanging out, usually with a group of people, just trying to get to know each other

• They mean the same thing to me. If y'all spending money or not, y'all just getting to know each other!

• Going out on a date means an intimate outing for a couple or a future couple. I believe there are two different types of hanging out:(1) you could be hanging out as an like friends, or just talking, trying to get to know each other... once again maybe in a group of people or (2) you could be hanging out w/ someone who you're dating whether alone or with a group of people.

• You can be hanging out as just friends, or maybe you guys are just chillin' out the house that's more like 'hanging out'. A date is two people who are interested in each other and go out, like you physically do something. Go to the park, get something to eat, etc. If he just keep you in the house  that's not a date in my eyes. And you can hang out with you boyfriend/girlfriend if you guys are just in the house watching TV or something that's like hanging out.

So what's my opinion about it all? Well to me these 'a date' and 'hanging out' does and does not mean the same thing. It all depends on the situation.  If there is obviously no chemistry at all between two people and one of the persons ask the other to hang out then… they are just hanging out as friends. If you two are interested in one another and 'hang out' outside of the house like the movies, dinner, golf, etc. Then that is a date to me! Hanging out inside the house is just that … hanging out!

But as you can see…. Everyone has different opinions on the situation. But I think all in all it really depends on the situation and next time someone ask you to hang out and you're not sure if it's a date… subliminally ask. Or just ask. It's better to know then to not know!!

Hope you enjoyed this weeks' Question of the Week… add in your two cents as well!! What do you think??

I'll be posting the next QOTW on Sunday!! Any suggestions? Post them or shoot me an email at: fiercenreal@gmail.com!

Smooches, Presh*
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50 cent ... crackhead?

Have you seen 50 cent lately? Well be prepared for a drastic change as you can see. He has lost a drastic amount of weight! About 54lbs to be exact!! Went from 214 to 160!! He was on a 9 week weightloss plan where he exercised daily for hours and drinked only liquids!! Honestly he looks like a crackhead. Sorry but it is true. However his reasoning for it is a good one!! He slimmed down so that he could play the part of a new movie called “Things Fall Apart” which he wrote and co-produced. 50 will play a football player who is diagnosed with cancer. -sad face-. His inspiration was a friend of his who passed away from cancer. I’m personally very interested in seeing the movie however I hope 50 gains back his weight since filming is over cause he had a nice body lol!

Randomosity - Quotes Edition

Heeyyy awesooome folks!

Today I'm just doing some "random" blogging featuring some of my favorite quotes that I got from different places! Hope you too can find them inspiring!!

 Don't worry about falling in love because in most fairytales they don't find each other till the last page...

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Life's funny sometimes, but it's an amazing thing. Things change. People change. Somewhere along the line, you learn to deal with it. Bad things happen, you get hurt, your heart gets broken, you lose the people closest to you, and people you love might turn their backs on you. You realize what true friends really are, you finally learn to actually live life to the fullest. For now, we're gonna stay young, and live life like we're never going to see it again, we'll believe in ourselves and everyone around us. We're always going to look for the better things and remember that stuff happens. Whether it's bad, good, exciting, or breath taking...we won't regret anything. 

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so let's say that theoretically i really like you,

& theoretically, even though it sounds moronically cliché & overused,

you give me butterflies. & just for kicks,

lets add that, all in theory of course, you may be one of the most wonderful

people i have ever met. &, hypothetically, my heart beats

ten times faster when i see you. do you think that you would supposedly

(in the most theoretical sense) feel the same way?

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Somewhere between laughing for no reason,
making fun of each other, and calling each other names,
I sorta fell for you.

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Maybe  

you want her,  

Maybe 

you need her. 

Maybe 

you had her,  

Maybe 

you lost her.

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A tear falls forever inside a broken-heart

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When it comes down to it, I let them think what they want. If they care enough to bother with what I do, then I'm already better than them.

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Success makes so many people hate you. I wish it wasn't that way. It would be wonderful to enjoy success without seeing envy in the eyes of those around you. 

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Hope you enjoyed them!!

Smooches, Presh <3

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Undateable .

Heyy! So I'm watching Undateable on VH1 and it's hilarious. If you've never watched it, then you definitely should! Here's some of the reasons why they say, and I agree, that men are undateable!


Wearing Tighty Whities

No like seriously? WTF?! Like why would you wear those? What makes you even buy them? Please stop wasting your money and get some boxers or boxer briefs! Much sexier! Not that David Beckham don't look sexy in that pic but still... them tighty whities need to go! LOL

 



Dirty Bathroom

I personally can't stand going in a dirty bathroom. I've dated a dude who had a dirty bathroom and it so turned me off. I never even wanted to go over his house because I wasn't about to shower in some dirt stained tub. Come on. Clean! Get some ajax and get to scrubbing!

Dirty Nails

Major turn off! Like even if you work somewhere where your nails can get dirty everyday… well every night you need to be cleaning them! Dirty nails just aren’t cute. I wouldn't want you touching me with some shit stained looking hands. I personally think it's nice when guys even get manicures! Just keep it simple with a clear coat please! LOL.

Moobs 

What are moobs? Man Boobs! Yeah sorry boys but that makes you so undateable. Especially if they are bigger than mines. Like I can maybe do an A cup but if you a D cup like me… then we have a problem. Fix it!

Guys Who Use Steroids
 
I hate going into the gym and seeing those guys who look like all they do is workout. 24/7 . Like they muscles be so disgustingly huge. It's so not something that I find attractive. The use of steroids is obvious and you will be 'X' out of the 'can get it' list.

Guys who don't pay on the first date
 
I remember going on a date with a guy to the movies and we went to the automated system to purchase the tickets. He goes and picks out the ticket and such and I notice he only gets ONE. He gets his ticket, moves to the side, and I'm standing there like "Is he seriously not going to pay for my ticket?". I wanted to just walk out right then … but I really wanted to see the movie LOL. But anyway, if a guy doesn’t pay for the first date … on to the next one. He is not dateable!!

The episode also did include one thing that make us women undateable and that was: Asking men if they think we look fat. I would have to agree. Men find confidence sexy and if you're asking if you look fat then they might think you're insecure ... which you usually are.


Anyway lovelies … check out the book Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do That Guarantee They Won't Be Dating or Having Sex by Ellen Rakieten and Anne Coyle for more things that label a guy as Undateable!

Smooches, Presh *

Cheers to my new blog! :)

Heyyyy! So yeah, I'm finally getting this started. Been something I've wanted to do for a minute! And now that I just finished college *throws confetti*, I figured I have the time to do it! So I plan on bringing the world some fierce things and always keeping it real! From beauty to fashion, relationships to advice, and all the randomness that falls in between! I have a passion for a lot of different things and I will express my love for it all here! Hopefully you'll follow me along on my blogger journey!! =]

Smooches, Presh .

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